20 tips for a happy retirement. #10 – Make PEACE and move on.

Make Love not war, Make Peace and move on. Forgive and Let Go

Why?

Well, if you do “Make peace with your past so it won’t destroy your present.” – Paulo Coelho

I don’t know about you but this seems as good a reason as any, don’t you agree?

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life…….” – Akshay Dubey

For me this doesn’t mean hunting down your foe, buying them a drink, holding them by the hand and looking them directly in the eyes and saying “I forgive you” but adding a bit more and maybe just delivering the message to the most important person in the room – ME!

“I forgive you. But just because I forgive you doesn’t mean I want to continue to be your friend. It doesn’t even mean I respect you as a man because you are not. You are a miserably scared little boy who can’t tell when to let go and when to hold on. You will never be worth my time nor my friendship.” –  Rebecca David

To me I don’t even care if they don’t know – it’s about ME after all! (I might even take some pleasure in moving on in the knowledge that they might still feel some discomfort! – BUT that’s NOT the ‘spiritual’ way!!)  Some care more about what other people think of them than how they feel about themselves so my message to them is …

Let it go

The cold never bothered me anyway

Let it go, let it go

And I’ll rise like the break of dawn

Let it go, let it go

Kristen Anderson-Lopez / Robert Lopez

 

Wayne Dyer says forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth.  Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more that, a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace. So in only 15 steps you too can learn to forgive!

I have to admit that although I ‘get’ the message, I really do! I can’t help it is far simpler than what is often prescribed, that is it’s an act of doing rather than contemplating. However how much ENERGY are we going to give this??

“Don’t try fixing something that is already broken in the first place.”- John Robert Go

A walking away from rather than a exercise of self contemplation, mindfulness and introspection – all good things in their place but hey the idea here is that we LEAVE these things and people in the past and move onwards. Easier said than done but here are a few quotes I’ve come across that express things in a way that you relate to, from far greater minds than mine and with a way with words I could only dream of having, starting with that great philosopher…Winnie the Pooh.

 

“I always get to where I am going by walking away from where I have been.”

 

 

“When you hold onto a script that doesn’t serve you, you leave no space to write a new one that does.” – Jennifer Ho

“You can’t feed today’s hunger with yesterday’s meal” –  TJ Milam

“Living for the future is more important than trying to avenge the past.” – Kentaro Miura, Berserk, Vol. 2

“Letting go is an inside job, something only we can do for ourselves.”Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection

“Sometimes in life you’ve got to

Ctrl, Alt, Delete

and let go.”

Marilyn Devonish

 

 

“To forgive is a decision, to forget takes effort, to heal is a process, to believe again takes courage.” – Victoria Wen

“Get pass your past, be a presence in your present, and let no one refute your future.” – Johnnie Dent Jr.

“Resentment and bitterness and old grudges were dead things, which rotted the hands that grasped them.” – Winston Graham, Jeremy Poldark

“The beauty of the present and the future can only be seen by those who are willing to let go of the past.” –  Edmond Mbiaka

“When you choose to let go, you discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you go for it!” –  Chinonye J. Chidolue

“When we can’t let go of the past, painful moments accumulate in us; metastasising in our consciousness like an emotional cancer.”– Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

“To get over the past, you first have to accept that the past is over. No matter how many times you revisit it, analyse it, regret it, or sweat it…it’s over. It can hurt you no more.”Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“No matter how much you stress or obsess about the past or future, you can’t change either one. In the present is where your power lies.”Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

 

“Sometimes people are so genuinely themselves they aren’t conscious of the fact they have wronged you; sometimes you shouldn’t care enough to bring it to their attention.” – J’son M. Lee

“Letting yesterday affect today will only destroy the excitement of tomorrow.” – Michelle Cruz-Rosado

“Forgiveness is the process of dropping off your emotional baggage.”- Tim Fargo

“My past takes no hostages, no prisoners. I’ve let go of yesterday and am free to receive the beautiful gift of the present.”- Jaeda DeWalt

 

So what do YOU feel about this?

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